One of the biggest challenges is maintaining peace through pivotal life decisions.
There is a preoccupation with wanting to make the perfect decision, yet countless conflicting factors that make it nearly impossible to narrow things down.
But it doesn’t have to be complicated.
While practical option-weighing is necessary, at times, doing so in excess can lead to even more paralyzing anxiety and confusion.
Sometimes, the best thing to do is slow down, focus on self-care, and give credit to your greatest tool: intuition.
The following tactics will help you create peace of mind during and after decision-making, and overcome challenges with grace.
1. View Mistakes as Opportunities, Not Failures; stop fearing, and instead embrace them.
Our greatest anxiety in making a decision stems from the fear of messing up.
In reality, the fear is usually irrational.
Ask yourself: What really is the worst that could happen, and if the worst-case occurs, what’s something positive I could take from the situation?
Remember that a mistake only becomes a total failure when you allow it to; the choice is 100% yours, every time.
Have the attitude that whatever you decided was the right thing for you in that moment; refuse to feel regret.
Believe that you can handle anything that comes your way as a result of your choice (even if it wasn’t anticipated).
Also, think of your “bad” decisions in the past which seemed wrong in the immediate aftermath, but ended up being best long-term.
Perhaps there was wisdom acquired, or you became stronger.
Maybe it led to an even better opportunity that you otherwise would have missed.
Mistakes are here to redirect us toward greater blessings, and teach valuable lessons.
Without them, how ever could we grow?
2. Stop Asking Everyone’s Opinions; be careful whom you seek advice.
Remember that when someone gives you advice, with it they’re also giving their own experiences, morals, faults, and insecurities.
Sometimes this is beneficial. Others, detrimental.
This is not to say never to rely on others; a support system is highly important to your wellbeing.
However, simply be mindful when you do.
Even the most well-intentioned loved one may not necessarily be helpful, simply because of an underlying emotional blockage, or differing life views.
Only seek guidance if a person has direct experience in your circumstance, or a character quality which could provide valuable perspective.
Respect and consider your loved ones’ thoughts, but ultimately, you owe it to yourself to do what’s best for you, even if someone you care for disagrees.
3. Learn to Trust Your Gut; your first thought is almost always the right thing.
Your gut feeling is your intuition, which is your Higher Self’s inner wisdom.
Intuition speaks to each of us daily, but like a soft whisper, can get drowned out before we even notice.
As you become increasingly self-aware, you’ll find that Your Truth is the very first thought that pops into your head.
However, often within seconds, this insight may be overridden by earthly fears, over-rationalization, or judgment.
When you learn to develop and clearly recognize that voice before it vanishes, you will more easily be able to trust it, preventing future problems.
Which brings us to the next point…
4. Take Time to Do Nothing; in silence, answers reveal themselves.
It’s human instinct to want to alleviate stress as quickly as possible.
However, understand that quietness and patience are as well crucial elements in decision-making.
To center yourself, try prayer, meditation, listening to Solfeggio frequencies or ambient music, positive affirmations, or breathing techniques.
My favorite guided meditations are from Glenn Harrold; I highly recommend his app, Overcome Anxiety.
Another great resource is YouTube; Jason Stephenson’s channel has playlists for all of the techniques mentioned above.
Don’t amplify stress by rushing yourself, or allowing thoughts to swirl around in your head.
Instead, let the ideas marinate. Wait and ask for guidance.
You will receive it.
Whether you believe the guidance is divine, or that centering yourself will bring it out of your own higher consciousness (intuition), taking a pause will be your most helpful tool.
5. Give Up a Level of Control; put faith in something larger than yourself.
Spirit, The Universe, God, or just a general belief that you have the power, wisdom, and duty to make a difference.
Religious or secular; the labels and technicalities are unimportant.
What matters is that you have a way to connect with a greater purpose and create peace of mind for the future.
Believe you have always, and will always be okay.
Remind yourself that you are exactly where you’re meant to be, and you have a broader mission to fulfill.
Trust that whatever you decide will contribute to manifesting this mission; either directly, or indirectly through teaching and preparing you.
When you believe you are an infinitely capable human being, you are more likely to think positively for the future, regardless of the outcome of a temporary circumstance.
At the end of the day, every decision is the “right” one; simply enjoy each transitional season of your already-beautiful life.